Shut down your self-confidence or how to be a Nervous Nellie.
What is self-confidence in the first place? It’s the ability to be sure of your own thoughts and decisions and to know deep down that they are right; or at least right to you at the time. It means not obsessing over whether or not you did the right thing, but instead made a decision. We don’t want that here. In fact we don’t want to do anything here at ‘Monday’. Instead we want to shut down that inner voice that says “You’ve got this” and replace it with “What are you doing?”
So how do we zap any potential or real self-confidence we may have? One way is to never be prepared. Being prepared we have more reasons to just act. We have more confidence that we’re ready. You don’t want to be ready; you want to shake that self-confidence up.
Never be independent. In fact read my article on How to Be More Dependent. If you’re independent then when problems happen they will affect you less, and you will have more options and you won’t ever be totally dependent on someone who might be in the trouble with you. If you’re dependent then your confidence can get shake easier as more people may be involved
Don’t be an over-achiever; in fact don’t be an achiever at all. If you gain your goals then you gain more self-confidence about your decisions. You then want to achieve more and again gain more self-confidence. It turns into a vicious cycle. Instead try not to do anything, win anything, or accomplish any goals
Fear everything! Fear sucks out self-confidence like someone sucks rattle snake poison out of a wound. In fact read my article on being afraid! Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of snakes, and fear of pickles. You can’t be confident when you’re afraid of stuff.
Base your behavior on what others think. I’m not talking about shooting down self-esteem although that might be the subject for another article. I’m talking about judging your decisions based on whether they criticize you for them. That’s a real self-confidence killer right there.
Don’t take any risks. Because risks imply a certain danger. If you don’t take any risks you might not make any winning decisions in which case you won’t gain any self-confidence when you don’t take risks. As simple as that, play it safe!
Okay let’s put in a number 7 for completeness — Don’t take any actions, or wooden nickels for that matter. If you take no action then decisions come and go and your self-confidence goes down because you didn’t make a decision, it just stood there breeding your fear.
Okay well I hope this showed you how to get rid of that self-confidence stuff everyone keeps talking about. Of course you will never get the girl if you don’t have it, but we don’t really care about that do we?